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A Black and White Choice NOT to read Fifty Shades of Grey

| May 30, 2012

Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey,” an erotic novel by an obscure British author based on Stephanie Meyer’s Twilight series, has electrified women across the country. Readers have spread the word like wildfire on Facebook pages, in college hallways, at office functions and in spin classes. Within six weeks of publication, the three books of the series, Fifty Shades of GreyFifty Shades Darker and Fifty Shades Freed, claimed the top three spots in USA Today’s Best-Selling Books list. Sales have topped 10 million. The series is so popular that last month, author E. L. James was listed as one of Time magazine’s “100 Most Influential People in the World“.

Red Room of Pain

The books in question are erotica that explicitly describe sexual bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism (BDSM). The story follows an unfolding affair between a recent college graduate, the virgin Anastasia Steele, and handsome young billionaire entrepreneur, Christian Grey, whose childhood abuse left him a deeply damaged individual, and who enlists her to share his secret sexual proclivities. Steele is required by Grey to sign a contract allowing him complete control over her. Because of her fascination and budding love for him, she consents to a kinky sexual relationship that includes being slapped, spanked, handcuffed, and whipped with a leather riding crop in his “Red Room of Pain.”

A few weeks ago, the book popped up as Amazon’s suggested buy on my Kindle. I declined. Like my friend, Dannah Gresh, I absolutely refuse to read these books.

Smut is Smut

Undoubtedly, the series portrays BDSM in the context of an engaging, passionate, tender, romantic relationship that culminates in the characters falling in love, and the conflicted girl assuaging the billionaire’s troubled soul. But it doesn’t matter to me how the author sweetens it up. The tasty red Kool-Aid doesn’t offset the bitter poison. Smut is still smut.

I don’t have to read the book to know that it’s bad for women. Nor do I need to read it to tell you that I think it would be unwise for you to read it.

7 Reasons Not to Read 50 Shades

1. It violates God’s design for sex:

God created sex to be exclusive to marriage. In 50 Shades the relationship is based on a sex contract, not a marriage covenant. The Lord says that sex outside of marriage is sin. It grieves Christ when we take pleasure in something He abhors.

 2. It violates the biblical concept of authority:

The relationship between a man and wife is to mirror Christ’s relationship to His Bride. BDSM tells a lie about the nature of that relationship. Christ taught and modelled that authority is for the purpose of loving service. It is not an egotistical power trip. Christ is not into domination, control, abuse, and humiliation. So in my mind, there’s something seriously wrong when we get a kick out of interpersonal domination/humiliation, and bring BDSM into Christian bedrooms.

3.  It violates the biblical concept of submission:

A wife’s submission is first and foremost to Christ. The biblical directive to submit does not turn women into brain-dead, passive, weak-willed doormats who acquiesce to the whims of dominant, controlling men. Nothing could be further from the truth. The Lord doesn’t want His daughters to be wilting, weak-willed, wimpy women who welcome and enjoy abuse. BDSM perverts and mocks the beauty of what true submission is all about.

 4. It encourages the sin of sensuality:

Erotica is a genre that aims to arouse sexual desire. It evokes sensuality, a sin that appears in numerous New Testament lists of vices (Gal 5:19, Rom. 13:13, Mark 7:21-23, 1 Pet 4:3, 2 Cor. 12:21). Sensuality is anything that

  1. is characterized by lust
  2. expresses lewdness or lust,
  3. tends to excite lust.

Scripture tells us to flee all such things.

5. It promotes sexual perversion:

“Curiosity” has led to the downfall of multitudes who have been trapped in the destructive, downward vortex of sexual sin. Fifty Shades piques curiosity. It dangles behaviors that are forbidden, unfamiliar, and titillating. Maybe you’re just curious, or maybe you rationalize that it might boost your libido and marital sex life. And it might. Temporarily. But the problem with erotica, as with porn, is that you’ll end up craving increasingly graphic, perverse images over time. Erotica/porn lead to deeper, darker erotica/porn. What’s more, they end up robbing people of the joy and satisfaction of “ordinary,” non-twisted sex with an “ordinary” spouse. In the end, they assault and diminish a healthy sex life.

6. It glamorizes pathological relationships:

The male protagonist is a very tortured and misunderstood soul with a proclivity for sexual perversion. One moment he is abusive, and the next he is tender and romantic. The girl feels she is the only one who can reach him and help him. Hmmm. Sounds like a seriously dysfunctional co-dependent abusive relationship to me. As Dr. Pinksy, a relationship expert said, “the idea that women look at this relationship as anything other than absolute, categorical, profound pathology is more than I can imagine… I worry about the 15-year-olds and 19-year-olds reading this and formulating a notion that this is anything close to a reasonable relationship.”

7. You won’t get it out of your head:

The Bible tells us to think about things that are pure, right, excellent, praiseworthy, lovely, admirable, noble, and true (Phil 4:8) There’s truth to the old proverb that “as a man thinketh so is he,” and the modern day adage, “garbage in – garbage out.” Your thoughts have transformational power – for good or for evil. Filling your head with thoughts of sin, sensuality, dysfunction, and BDSM will lead you further away from the things of God and not closer to them. Darkness has incredible “sticking power” – Once exposed, it can be extremely difficult to get the images and thoughts out of your head.

As Dannah says,

“God has given me more than fifty shades of truth in His Word and when just one of them is in conflict with my entertainment choices, I choose to pass! To be clear: I wouldn’t drive my Envoy into the front of an oncoming semi-truck any more than I would open the pages of Fifty Shades of Grey. I love my marriage, my God, and myself too much.”

So girls, have some respect for the Lord, and for yourselves. Exercise some discernment, and don’t read this book!

In my opinion, the choice whether or not to read Fifty Shades of Grey is pretty black and white.

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  1. Laurel says:

    thanks for that great article…I have heard this book mentioned with cult like following but had no idea what it was about (although I knew with that kind of following it would not honour God!!)

  2. Cathy Clayton says:

    Thank you for this powerful message! I hear co-workers raving about this book and how they are so obsessed with it, not wanting it to end, cant wait to read the next book of this trilogy, then sad at reading the last book! It has been so disguisting and my heart breaks that young women can get so engrossed in such horrible entertainment. I will certainly forward this on to many many others. Thank you thank you thank you!1

  3. Laura M says:

    What I find most disturbing is that many of the same people who read Twilight graduated to Fifty Shades. How many younger girls who loved Edward and Bella (which I found super creepy and codependent to begin with) now wonder if this kind of codependent abusive relationship is not only normal but positive?

    It horrifies me that something as degrading and horrible as BDSM has been mainstreamed. Everything you said is exactly right.

    • Anonymous says:

      I agree with what you have said. I also think that as we speak, another woman out there is writing something to top the Grey series. In my opinion, it is the Fallen Archangel Lucifier himself who inspired the authors (all women) of Harry Potter, Twilight and now 50 Shades of Grey. The spirit of Jezebel is alive, well, and very actively seeking to destroy.

      • Anonymous says:

        Not really fair to include Harry Potter in your list there but I agree with everything said about 50 shades of Grey – potentially so damaging…

  4. Cindy says:

    As my grandmother used to say, “Amen, Brother Ben.”

  5. Marc5Solas says:

    As a father, I have to (unfortunately) keep an eye on what christian women are reading for my daughters sakes. Teens listen to what women are reading and are often intrigued enough to grab mom’s books when they are cast aside. I did some early looking when I heard this book mentioned and found another excellent reivew at
    http://www.priscasvoice.com/2012/05/why-fifty-shades-of-grey-is-really-very.html

  6. Bonnie Finley says:

    I too, thank you for this Cliff Version of this book.
    Silly me I thought it was about the changing times in a woman’s life. Of course, I’m retired and a Christian so didn’t hear too much other than the title! Aren’t we doing enough to our young girls and teens with the emphasis in almost every commercial to be sexual in content and of course to be pencil thin?
    My Grandmother was right, “Beauty is only skin deep”in this case, “you can’t judge a book by it’s cover.”

  7. wellsology says:

    Trackback: [“Fifty Shades of Grey” – Not Reading it a “Black & White” Decision http://www.wellsology.com/2012/05/fifty-shades-of-grey-not-reading-it-a-black-white-decision/

  8. John says:

    This is impressive. Just as if the Holy Spirit was getting a message directly at me. We may dangerously choose to accept this “most of the characters God used in the Bible were imperfect” like Abraham, David etc. However, the Holy Spirit made me to realize two things:
    i. If we cannot be perfect He will not command us to.. be ye perfect as your heavenly father is
    ii. The character Daniel (a man found without blemish, a perfect man) is right there in my Bible
    So, how does this add up to the article?
    Most Christians hide under the aegis of ‘no man can be perfect’ to sin. Flee all appearance of evil but when we dwell with it right on our TV box and in the books we read, we sin and flirt with God’s laws. Reading Dannah’s words and now Mary’s expose is enough for anyone to know the 50 shades book and every lewd/erotica serial and book one reads stains your garment and gets you down in the murky waters of sin.
    Broad is the way that leads to hell and throngs will take that path. A peculiar person will not read 50 shades after reading Mary Kassian’s article!
    Keep the flag flying Mary Kassian.

  9. Jay says:

    Or you can just let people decide for them selves if they want to read it or not. And let us not judge other people

    • Karen says:

      Actually, the Bible tells us to judge those within the Church (1 Co 5:12). This author makes a great defense as to why there is strong biblical justification for NOT opening Shades of Grey. We are to spur one another on towards righteousness. I love that the author is willing to call a spade a spade and I appreciate her admonishment.

      • Rose says:

        I agree. The idea of “judging” others is so misunderstood.

      • Amen!

        We are not called to “judge” those outside of the faith. They have unregenerate hearts…so we can’t expect them to be repulsed by this type of fiction.

        But we have seem to forget speaking truth in love and to as you said, “spur each other on”. It’s part of being in the family of God!
        Heather

    • klg says:

      Actually, If you read the Bible in context you’ll see that Jesus only condemns a judgmental spirit- constantly pointing out the sin in others without examining your own heart first. But he does exhort us to make RIGHT judgments, confront sin in others, use wisdom and discernment, show Christ to others, FLEE from sexual temptation, exhibit “not even a hint” of sexual immorality, etc. etc. This topic isnt about being legalistic or judgmental. It’s about wisdom and discernment. Choosing not to set any vile thing before our eyes, when we can help it. It’s not about living a lifestyle in a Christian bubble and refusing to live in the world. Some things we can’t avoid being exposed to. In this case, we can avoid it. For those who think a little fantasy is harmless and “it’s not like you’re going to go out and act on the desires”…let me remind you what Jesus said: even if you lust in your heart after anyone other than your spouse, have you committed adultery. Reading erotic fiction is reading about someone else’s sex life and seeing those images vividly in your mind. It stimulates sexual desire and feelings, and as the author mentioned- that is a slippery slope to be avoided. I’m honestly blown away that there are Christians passionately defending their choice to read this book. I challenge you spend time with God, praying, reading Scripture and asking Him if this is a wise choice and a good use of your time/money.

    • That Girl says:

      two thumbs up with the not judging.

    • Anonymous says:

      I couldn’t agree more…as usual Christian’s elect to judge. If someone judged the Bible without reading it Christian’s would judge that too. Very frustrating! Let’s remember if we lived in Biblical times we women would all be submissives and not by choice. The reference to sex and marriage as conveyed in the Bible…interesting, lets also remember that God blessed King Solomon and he had hundreds of wives and concubines…shall we take a moment as Christian’s and elect to scrutinize that little nugget. Correct, make a choice…read it or not, but don’t campaign against it.

      • deshipley says:

        Yes, God blessed Solomon — both for the sake of his father, David, and because, when given the opportunity to ask for anything at all, Solomon asked for wisdom. Pleased with the request, God granted him wisdom and many more blessings, besides. But Solomon’s choices regarding his collection of women were far from acting on the wisdom he’d been given. His wives enticed him into idol worship, resulting in the kingdom of Israel getting torn from his heir, and the nations of Israel and Judah went down on a fairly steady downhill course ever since.

        God delights in blessing those who follow him, and may continue blessing those who’ve gone astray for the sake of promises made, for God never breaks a promise. But he has also promised that sin has consequences, and we will never experience all the good he wishes us to if we insist on making poor, destructive choices. And anything outside of his intention is a poor, destructive choice.

        Like all good parents, our heavenly father gives us rules for a reason: Our best interest. Is it “judging” to advise a child not to stick her hand in the fire if you know full well she’ll get burned? Or is it really the only loving thing to do?

  10. Anonymous says:

    Sex is meant to be enjoyed. Who cares how you enjoy it. You shouldn’t judge others on what they do in their sex life. It would be a lie if people said the waited till marriage to have sex. Some people I know have waited and that’s great but I don’t plan on getting married ever so I didn’t wait.

    • J. Dear says:

      Dear “Anonymous” –

      I am very sad to think that you might actually BELIEVE the statements that you made in your post – and I truly hope that you don’t!

      You begin by saying, “Sex is meant to be enjoyed. Who cares how you enjoy it.” Your first statement is absolutely correct – Sex IS meant to be enjoyed! But just WHO do you think gave us the gift of sex and “means” for us to enjoy it? GOD DID! He tells us this from the outset of his holy Word, virtually immediately after creating man and woman, and even encourages them to “be fruitful and multiply”. Sex – in the right context is a very GOOD thing, which was given to us by God, and He DOES want us to enjoy it….HIS way!

      Yet, your first true statement is followed immediately by a question that implies that you don’t believe what you just said. “Who cares how you enjoy it”? GOD DOES – and He’s the one who designed sex for our pleasure and our procreation! God – the very one who “means” for us to enjoy it, is also the very one who cares DEEPLY how we enjoy it!

      God gives us very clear instructions in His Word, teaching us that sex is to be practiced ONLY in marriage – and that it’s only in marriage that it can be fully enjoyed! On the contrary, to be sexually active outside of marriage is not only rebellion against God (who, coincidentally, CREATED us, loves us, rules over us, and will someday judge us for all of eternity…), but it also weakens in every way the likelihood that we will truly be “enjoying” sex – and greatly increases the risk that our sexual experiences will be disappointing, damaging to us (physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc.), and – in extreme cases – perhaps even deadly. Is THIS what sex should be like…is THIS what it “means” to enjoy sex? I think not!

      God’s plan for sex – and for every other area of our lives – will ALWAYS be best, and will ALWAYS produce the ultimate level of enjoyment, satisfaction, and joy! If you really don’t believe this, then I feel great pity for you – I’d hate to think that you’re going to completely miss out on experiencing the tremendous blessing of doing things God’s way – especially in regard to the greatest earthly pleasure which he permits us to experience!

      You go on to say, “It would be a lie if people said they waited till marriage to have sex.” Yet you contradict yourself in the very next sentence, when you say, “Some people I know have waited and that’s great….”. So, are those “some people you know” LYING to you…or are they being TRUTHFUL about having waited? Which is it? If they are friends of yours, and are speaking the truth to you, then IT’S NOT A LIE FOR PEOPLE TO SAY THEY WAITED UNTIL MARRIAGE…IF THEY REALLY DID!

      In fact, I’m a guy – I was 35 when I got married (just over two years ago now) – and I had waited on sex until I got married! Did I WANT to have sex prior to that? Absolutely! Did I have OPPORTUNITIES to have sex prior to marriage? Many, many times – and every one of them was a great temptation to me! However, I KNEW that God’s plan was best, and – while I am certainly far from perfect in all areas of my life – that is one area of my life that I was able to keep pure, for 35 years, while I waited on God to provide my bride. And, oh my – was it ever WORTH the wait!

      God provided me with a far more beautiful, virtuous, amazing wife than I could have ever imagined – and He has blessed our marriage tremendously, because of the ways that we’ve sought to honor Him. As one example of this, our first son (who is the most precious boy that I’ve ever seen! :O) just turned ONE on Thursday! We do not EARN God’s love and blessing – none of us will ever be good enough for that – but if we will put Him first in our lives and honor Him with our decisions, then I promise you, tremendous blessings will surely follow!

      Anyway, there’s certainly more that I could say about this, but I’m sure I’ve said quite enough. In essence, though, I’m very sorry that you believe the way that you say you do…and I hope that your heart and mind will change in regard to these ideas about sex! I am sorry to hear that you have no desire for marriage (though I have no idea what your specific reasons are for this), but – whether you ever marry or not – sex outside of marriage is offensive to God (The Bible tells us so!) and falls tragically short of the PLEASURE that God does “mean” for us to experience!

      The good news about this, though, is that it’s never too late to repent of past mistakes (sins) and start living life according to God’s plan! I certainly hope that you will pray, and ask God to reveal Himself to you in a very real way. If you ever give your life to Him, you’ll be blessed greatly – both now and in eternity!

    • J. Dear says:

      P. S. – I must admit, I am not typically in the habit of hanging out on the “Girls Gone Wise” blog site (though I know it’s a good one!) and responding to posts on here! Tonight, I followed a recommended link from the blog site of Tim Challies, whom I know and respect. But, who knows? Perhaps the Lord directed me here for the very purpose of offering some fresh comments – from a guy’s perspective – on this VERY important, and difficult topic. Regardless, I hope that I’ve encouraged somebody to listen more attentively to God’s voice – which is what we ALL should be aspiring to do!

    • SarahSmile says:

      So we shouldn`t judge child molesters for what they do to children in their so called sex life?????

    • Lucie says:

      Just curious to know if your statement, “You shouldn’t judge others on what they do in their sex life” includes pedophiles, rapists and those who commit incest.

  11. wellsology says:

    Small semantic….uh, quibble?..that I noticed on a 2nd reading. In your 2nd sentence of your 1st point, might it be a significant difference to say, “…not a marriage /covenant/,” rather than “contract”?

  12. Chris says:

    Impressive, you criticize a book you have not read. Between the Syrian massacre and the priest, who covered up sex abuse, being promoted by the Vatican this week, what a worthy subject of your disdain. Based on your criteria for not reading 50 shades of grey, I would suggest similar reasons to avoid reading the bible as it too is full of violence and endorsement of slavery.

    • pjharriett says:

      I read it so i could criticize the book. Mary was spot on in her evaluation of the content without having read a word. The book is just that shallow. I thought it was stupid. I also think more than one person wrote it. In an attempt to show the 50 shades of whatever (emotional and physical i guess) the tone of writing changes in disjointed ways. The book repeats the same sad conflict and illicit affair over and over. I’ll pass on the next two installments.

      • LDeBoth says:

        Well, if you read the book with the only reason being to criticize it, then you are just that shallow! I am a 63 year old grandma and I was, I’ll admit, a little tentative about reading the parts when the S & M was taking place, BUT, then you read more and you get into the book and you start to realize that there is more to this than meets the eye. The first book is told in Ana’s eyes and I didn’t find it disjointed in any way! It was kind of touching when Christian finds out that she was a virgin, as she never tells him before she consents to have sex with him. I am currently just finishing up the third, and last installment (sadly)and I find myself wishing it wouldn’t end! You ladies have to get past the whole S&M thing and really find out what these books are about.

        • Girly2011 says:

          I agree!!!! I feel so many people can’t get past the sex and s&m. In fact there is a love story!!

          • IloveJesus says:

            Are you kidding me? Just get past the S&M? I, unfortunately, read the book and I have felt terrible ever since. I asked the Lord to forgive me and I will NOT read the others in the series. Nothing about this book is good. It is depraved and degrading to women.

            How can you honestly say the relationship in the book is based on love? The relationship is about a man needing to CONTROL a woman in order to be sexually stimulated. He was going to make her sign a contract. He specifically said he couldn’t be with her if she didn’t do this with him. He has done this with other women and would have no problem replacing her. The only reason he was after her is she was a conquest and she gave in to his needs.

            Ana is like so many immature women that feel they have to change themselves in order to have a man. Much like the Twilight books where Bella couldn’t live without Edward, this trash is destoying young women’s views of themselves. If a man has that much control over your life, HE is your God.

            This book is pure porn. I hope this blog keeps other unknowing Christians from exposing themselves to this garbage.

        • Anonymous says:

          Really? A 63-year-old grandmother? Do you consider yourself a Christian?

        • Anonymous says:

          Love story? Really? A woman allows a man to brutally take her virginity and then allows him to sexually abuse her? (Yes, I read the first disgusting book in the series) The book is not only trash, it is poorly written and the author obviously felt the need to pepper her story with big words (no doubt she had a thesaurus in her hand to make sure she found “scholarly” words to give herself credibility). The series is degrading to women. I am ashamed that future generations will see that these books were on our bestseller lists. What does that really say about our world?

  13. Sarah says:

    I’m just wondering: Why don’t people get this excited about the message of the Gospel as opposed to this erotic novel? Why isn’t the bible number one on the bestsellers list, and women excitedly sharing the TRUE good news at their childrens’ soccer games? I don’t know, maybe it’s because I was not born into the Christian faith, that I have a greater appreciation for it?

    I heard the author of this book say something along the lines of: “I’m excited that my book is bringing women together…many of them are standing around outside of the school yards whispering: ‘have you read this?'” Um, isn’t spreading the word of God a better way to ‘bring women together’? When the Lord brings people together, it leads to lasting and more fulfilling relationships than when satan does it.

    The message that can REALLY transform your life is in the bible not in trashy paperbacks and movies. Be excited about the gospel and how Christ can transform your life, not ‘Fifty Shades of Grey.’

    • Jill says:

      Amen! Excellent point and very well put. I feel the same way about the Hungar Games books. There is nothing good to come from reading about or watching children kill one another for sport. It’s sickening and it disgusts me that Christians in my own family and circle of friends have been blinded. It’s as if the world has influenced them more than they’ve influenced the world.

      • MrsSampi says:

        Have you read the Hunger Games? The books are about holding on to values, family, God so that you don’t kill your children for sport.

  14. Jenine says:

    Just heard about this book at work this week. Not interested in reading it. I pick and choose things that will edify me spiritually. Psalm 101:3 says I will set before my eyes no vile thing. It is hard to forget! We already battle which much on this earth. Will definitely admonish the sisters I know not to bother. Going to share your post on our blog. Thank you

  15. Chrissi Cooper says:

    No offence or anything, but these are the best books I’ve read in a really long time, and it’s a not really fair to portray these books in this kind of light… If people want to read these books then should you not respect that and just not judge people? It doesn’t seem very christian of you to judge others by the kind of book that they read. Just saying.

    • Danielle says:

      Chrissi,

      I agree 100% I thought that we are free to make our own choices in this world!!!

    • Erin says:

      In no way did I get the impression that this author was judging anyone. The reason that you probably feel as if you are being judged is probably from your own guilt and conscience. The author is simply providing a point of view and advice that people obviously look up to. You can take or leave the advice but no one is judging you. And no one is telling you that you can’t make the choice to read this book, it’s just simply a warning. So go ahead read the book, ultimately the choice won’t affect anyone but you and all this author is trying to do is give you advice on how to live a better and more effective Christian life.

    • Ann says:

      I’m sorry but if you think these are the best books you have read in a long time, you need to find some other authors. I read these books and honestly i did not think they were worth the time it took to read them. I have read much better books. These are just your classic “s*x sells” books. There is no real meaning to the book. The author is simply warning true Christians who value the purity of not just their body but also their minds away from the book. Impurity begins in the mind. That is the target of these books. The author finds a way into your mind and stimulates the pleasure part of your brain. The author is not judging the people who are reading it. It is their choice if they want to have lustful thoughts. Instead she is providing a christian guide to those who have not, providing them with an argument against reading it if they so choose. Even Christians are human. Humans have opinions, as you yourself do. It is up to the person how they express their opinion, whether it is in guidance, as the author is, or condemnation(judgement), as you are.

      • apples says:

        I agree…I did not get the impression that the author was judging anyone either. I’m very thankful to have read this post-I’ll be steering clear of this book…there’s so many much better choices. Ever hear the expression, “garbage in, garbage out?” It’s so true.

  16. Beth says:

    How do you know so much about a book you have never read?

  17. boomerkid says:

    Writing this blog just gives this book so much attention & now people will want to know what it’s all about..

    isn’t that like ‘advertising’ this book??

    God gave us free will…to make our own decisions…for ME, this warning has to be ‘examined’..we can’t live by ‘others’ say so, on what to read, because we are responsible for our own actions..

    After reading the comments here, I have to read it now, to be able to make a intelligent opinion!

    I didn’t know very much about this book..I guess I will now..Thanks to your blog.

    • Amber says:

      I am a christian woman and yes I have sin in my life.. who doesnt? I am currently reading this book. Im sorry if this offends anyone.. but I have been in a STUDY relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years, we now live together. We have been living in sin for 5 years yes I know. But the thing is we still go to church every sunday, we still love and live for God. We pray and we do bible studies(and were only 22 years old) I love GOD and I acknowledge he is my father and I his child. But what you dont get it that everyone has there OWN SPECIAL relationship with GOD. As long as they have a health relationship and live their life for GOD who are we to judge how they choose to spend their free time? Every person sins wether you be a strong christians person or not its a part of human nature.(THIS IS WHY JESUS DIED FOR OUR SINS) I do not judge- and I will not judge someone who choose to live a life for GOD but chooses to read this book….. as for the YOUNG WOMEN who might read this book, its nothing they havent heard or seen on the net or REALITY TV SHOWS. As long as you instil values and morals then you shouldnt have a problem. I had many influences in HIGH SCHOOl but because of my FAITH I choose otherwise. Again do not pass judgement because one day we ALL will be judged.

      • John says:

        Amber, sounds like rationalization and justification. WWJD ?

        • Leslie says:

          We are justifiers. Been working on this for years.

        • mel says:

          WWJD? I believe he wrote that answer in the dust, then suggested the sinless ones throw the first stone. Strangely no one was sinless and so they all put down the stones and went home shamed, though I expect a fair few were angered by not being able to lob those stones at an easy target.
          Then what did he do? he said the most amazing words to an unrepentant adulteress…
          “Neither do I condemn you; go your way; from now on sin no more” (John 8:11)
          If Jesus didn’t Condemn then how come we get to whilst saying WWJD!!
          Jesus puts the onus on to each of us ourselves to make the choice – go your way… He asks us to put down the stones of convicting others and deal with our own sins and leave them to deal with theirs.
          Sure we can help one another along the way, we should help one another, but what we can’t do is condemn and convict, that is down to Christ and God to do alone and we already have Christs judgement on that one in John 8 and reiterated again by Paul in Romans 2.

          • Maria says:

            True, Jesus did not condemn the woman at the well. But dont forget He held her accountable for her sin. He didnt say, “well, you love this guy your sleeping with, so carry on sister.”

      • Melissa says:

        I haven’t read this book. I was told about it today and came home and decided to search online about it. The first website I found was the author’s, and the description of the story and characters actually was too close to home with my previous marraige and ex-husband. It was enough to make me decide I have no interest in reading this book. The abusive, controlling man conflicted with an abusive past and his sexual issues stemming from it, been there done that and have no desire to read someone else’s version of it. God is still healing me from the hurt I endured trying to have a marriage with someone that sounds a lot like this character. But then I found this website and read the article and all of the opinions. I’m actually shaking my head at all the people getting on their soap box about being judged. Maybe I read a different article, but what appears on my computer is an article about the book, not the people reading it. And honestly, if you feel someone doesn’t even have the right to “judge” you, then why are you compelled to “defend” yourself to them? Just saying.

      • Michelle says:

        Amber, I don’t know you and I am not judging you – I am replying to your comment which you chose to disclose with the viewers of this site.
        I have two comments for you and a couple scripture verses that you may already know, but I feel lead to these share with you:
        There is a great distinction between judging and discerning. As a Christian, who follows Christ, I do not judge (or “damn”) other people or other Christians because I am not THE judge. However, that being said, I am capable, as a Christ-following Christian, to discern, by using the Holy Spirit, and decide that reading a book such as Fifty Shades of Grey is not beneficial for my spirit or my spiritual growth. Likewise, as a Christian, I am also called to help turn my Christian brothers and sisters away from sin.
        “Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.” — Galatians 6:1 NIV
        That being said, I am pained to see the callousness in the way you speak of your intentional sin. Granted, as sinners, we are all guilty of sin but I share this last part of scripture with you and I pray that you read it with understanding:
        “If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. Anyone who rejected the law of Moses died without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. How much more severely do you think someone deserves to be punished who has trampled the Son of God underfoot, who has treated as an unholy thing the blood of the covenant that sanctified them, and who has insulted the Spirit of grace? For we know him who said, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” and again, “The Lord will judge his people.” It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.” — Hebrews 10:26-31 NIV

        • Wendy says:

          Your reply to Amber is spot on. Thanks for sharing.

          • mnorsworthy says:

            I find it amazing how readily people defend their choices, but fail to stand up for The One TRUE God and the commandments He set forth for us.

      • CJ says:

        Amber- live your life the way you want- you only answer to God not the Christian community- who is famous for passing judgment on others…which is why it’s taken so long for Christ to return…we haven’t gotten the POINT yet. If someone didn’t read the Bible but elected to judge it the entire Christian community would be in a uproar- but so many judgments against a love story that so many have not read- hysterical!Ironically the same Christians who accept in the Bible that King Solomon had hundreds of wives and concubines…yes the king that God blessed over and over again…interesting isn’t it (sounds like he was a little lover of many but dare we not question that). When the love story that has gained SO much attention (50 shades) is about two monogomous people. Additionally the same Christians who will quote King David in church each week…the same king that killed another womans husband so he could take her for himself…blessed by God…time and time again…yes, David learned his lesson and forgiveness reigned which is great but still yet, we are careful to pass judgment on this because it’s simply in the Bible…really? If we lived in Biblical times we’d all be submissives…just another point I’d like to make. Ironic. Live your life. Pray and be a church goer if you choice…in the end like I already said you only have to answer to God. Take care and many blessings to you and your boyfriend.

      • JustMe says:

        You cannot sale shop the Bible and just pick out the pretty red words. Going to church does not make one Christian…

    • Cece says:

      Soooooo!!!! U blaming this blog for your curiosity in reading this book. Hmmmm.

  18. SWill says:

    How is the author of this post judging anyone for reading the book? It seems to me that with all the watercooler talk and hoopla over these books that the purpose was to give anyone who might be ‘on the fence’ about reading them some thoughts as to why they should not. I have not read 50 shades. I checked it out on my nook and people either absolutely loved it or hated it. I chose not to read it because of the negative reviews that the writing was extremely poor and the story too repetitive. I prefer to spend my money elsewhere. If I had chosen to read them and then read this article, I would not feel judged. Sounds like people who read the books are on the defensive when they have no reason to be!

    • Leslie says:

      Yes. She isn’t judging. She is offering her biblical position. I would guess that God called her to write this to help others. But, I have to admit I wasn’t intrigued at all until I read this article. I wonder what that says about me! LOL!

  19. Isabel says:

    I definitely agree that this book should be read by a mature audience- meaning people 21 and up. I was apprehensive about reading these books, but my curiosity won. I enjoyed the plot and tended to speed read past he sexual parts. It is a bit unreal to see how the main character can get over his sexual perversities so quickly. It has a happy ending, which is probably why people like it. It did not lead me astray or make me want to do anything described in the book. I know it is just a book.

  20. E says:

    I am a Christian, and I have read these. I think that what happens behind close doors no one really knows and I also believe that we are all guilty of immoral acts either in our rooms with spouses or in our minds…. cant act to hastily…. I cant judge the speck in your eye, but the log in mine!! And if we really truly want to get down to the nitty gritty about this….WHY???did no one complain about Harry Potter and the witch craft??? Really, you dont want to read it fine…. but I aint any better than you….and I LOVED these books!

    And to all the women out there….Books are written to take the reader on a journey…We have grown from our journey and things that I had not discussed with my husband in 12 years, I was finally able to!! Take from it a growth, and a ability to understand yourself in a POSITIVE sexual light.

    And the only one who has any right to judge me is my LORD!! Be careful….this is how Christians always get a bad rap…………………

    • Wendy says:

      Umm… there actually was a big hoopla about the Harry Potter books. This blog post is not judgmental. She never insinuated that if you read these books you’re going to hell. She’s simply raising people’s awareness about the books being morally objectionable, and in so doing, following what the Bible says about guarding our minds.

    • Marie says:

      I think Christians “get a bad rap” because they act no different from the world.

      “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.” – Romans 12:2

      Perversion like Fifty Shades of Grey contributes to the searing of consciences and acceptance of sin.

      We are supposed to take every thought captive in obedience to Christ. Double-mindedness is dangerous and does not please God.

  21. Thernandez says:

    I have not read these books, I know people who have read them, or are reading them and have said that I should read them. With this post, I am even more confused. I didn’t really know what they were about until reading this post. I have to say there have been a lot of good points on both sides. I am a Christian, and reading all of the comments on this post by people who think that it is wrong to read this, have gotten me thinking. Should I read them? But, then the other side has me thinking too. We are exposed to these sorts of things daily. Whether it be TV, Movies or heck even the news!! How is this any different? I think the decision to read these books should come from a personal decision to do so. In my case, I will pray about it.

    • KJ says:

      My thoughts exactly. I too am confused based on the negative remarks posted by others. BUT I see this kind of stuff on the TV all the time. What difference would it be for me to read it? I love to read and I have read other romance novels. I can easly put the book down if it is too much. I was just looking for reviews and found this site. Just because I read something or see something doesn’t mean I am going to do it. If I read a book about a serial killer, am I a sinner as well for reading what he did? Just asking. At this point am thinking more on buying this book. I am curious what the talk is all about.

  22. Jillian says:

    Oh this article made me laugh!! Seriously? Relax it’s just a book! And to be honest it’s a fantastic read regardless of the content. It must be hard being so uptight, I feel sorry for you because you really are missing out on a great read! And I seriously doubt that God will judge me for the books I read. It’s sounds more like you are a judgemental person by nature and this is just another thing to judge people about. May God forgive you for judging others!!

    • Wendy says:

      Yup, it’s just a book that lots of impressionable young women are reading, being taught that it’s okay to be the recipient of outrageous physical/mental abuse. Silly us.

      • Char says:

        Jillian I agree with your statement. I read the THREE books. Didn’t stop at the first one and think I had the full idea of what the full meaning was of the story. In no way is the story about how great it is to be treated in this way. The writer makes it clear that the person has had a very bad life and that is what makes him do the things he does. I loved the books and also skimmed over the pages when I got tired of the same thing over and over. I liked the main story and ending. I am 67 and these books are for adult reading. I am so glad that we have choices in life. Childrens books are for children as teens are meant to read age appropriate books. The message in the books if you read ALL THREE books is not the same as if you choose to stop after the first one and think you have a right to judge.

        I hope everyone is happy in their own choices. Sorry to hear so many “christians” out there that always think they and their way makes them better than everyone else.

  23. PH says:

    I looked at this last night just to see what all the fuss was about. Complete trash! What is more I couldn’t believe when I clicked on Amazon’s “People who read this book also enjoyed….” that “Heaven is for Real” was on the title list. How very ironic! Aside from all of the moral objections to this book it is UNBELIEVABLY poorly written. I’m so offended and annoyed that this woman is profitting off of this drivel.

    • IloveJesus says:

      I could not agree more! Not only is the book trashy but TERRIBLY written. If you took out all the sex, the story is AWFUL.

  24. Temperance says:

    Both Fifty Shades of Grey and the Bible are works of fiction so read what you want.

  25. Love 50 says:

    I loved this books, my husband and I both read them. And they have done wonders for our relationship, not to metion our sex life! If you will read the books you will find that it is not all just smut. It is a love story. ANd it tells of what can happen to a person when they are abused as a child and then as an adult finds that one person that can take all that pain away.

    • Wendy says:

      So why does the innocent girl have to be the sacrificial lamb so this pervert can be healed? Why is that behavior okay? Give me a break.

      • MA says:

        Reminds me of the Jaycee Dugard story. The disgusting/perverted man who kidnapped her telling her that she was going to help him with his problem….
        It seems that a lot of times, “professing” believers want to justify so many things. I guess the question I am learning to ask is “Will this draw me closer to the Lord and will my time spent reading/watching/doing, etc have positive “fruit” as an end result?”

        • Wendy says:

          Well put! And I forgot about Jaycee Dugard. Perfect case in point. I’ll bet SHE won’t read this book!!!

    • mnorsworthy says:

      Pyschiatrist are ready and waiting. Being sexually dominated and degraded is not a love story and if it is, I’m glad it’s not mine.

  26. vee says:

    I’m currently on the 3rd book. It’s obvious the author hasn’t read the books. There is a loving relationship and it goes a lot deeper than just over the top sex. That’s what captured my attention. I honestly got quite bored with the sex but was head over heels with how the relationship between the 2 main characters played out.

    • Amy says:

      TOTALLY agree!! The book shows the true power of love and acceptance and what those things can do to a person!

      • Wendy says:

        Yeah, the powers of love and acceptance, all wrapped up in a big package of pain and suffering. Sounds just wonderful.

        • Marie says:

          Love and acceptance? More like lust and ascendancy mingled with an ungodly sexual relationship.

          These types of books are not romantic. They are emotional pornography and they destroy marriages.

  27. Anonymous says:

    Thank you for this!! Last year I would have run to read this, but PRAISE THE LORD, HE saved me, and I am now starting to see things the way He does. I actually get sick to my stomach when I hear these women talking about this book. Thank you for your site, and your truth. You are wonderful!

    Colleen

  28. Colleen says:

    Well last year, I would have run to the store to buy this. But, it’s truly amazing when the Lord saves someone, how differently you view things of this world. Thank you for reasons not to read this book. You are wonderful! GOD BLESS! :)

  29. Thank you for posting this. Your clear voice and strength for the truth is so encouraging to me!

  30. Adrienne H. says:

    Thank you for the insightful article. I have seen a few people mention this book and thought it was just another teen craze phase. I would not have known otherwise.

  31. Huh? says:

    Defending the book by saying “it’s just like what I see on TV” isn’t a good defense of the book. It’s simply an acknowledgement that you probably should re-think your TV habits.

    This book is female book porn, plain and simple.

  32. Amy says:

    I am a CHRIStian, happily married woman who has actually read the book (go figure). How can anyone judge a book without actually reading it? If you read it and decide it’s a no-no for YOU – by all means have your opinion. Until you actually read it though, you have no merit in your critique. On a side note, while I did find the series to have more erotica than needed, the concepts behind the whole relationship are what the whole concept of BDSM is – it’s NOT about the sex as much as people thing. So, again – without truly knowing that world – how can one judge? I have had the pleasure of knowing several people in the lifestyle personally and while I may not agree with their choices – to judge them without understanding WHY is just stupid. And people wonder why modern society has such venom when they say the word Christian….

  33. REALLY says:

    Really people… It is a book… Jesus will not judge us if we read this! How about reading all the magazines in line at the grocery store?? All the cheating and lies that go on in those? IT IS JUST A BOOK!

    • Anonymous says:

      Than what will we be judged by? It is the totality of what we choose. I think we will be judged and blessed based on all of our decisions. I care about what my child puts into her mind. Why is it any different between our Father and us. It is even more so because even as parents we don’t understand the depth of Holy love.

  34. Mara says:

    I would say the biggest complaint I have with books like Fifty Shades of Grey and Twilight is how poorly written they are. They honestly read like bad fan-fiction. The sex kinky sex stuff doesn’t really bother me. I figure as long as it’s consensual and between adults it’s not really worth getting upset over. There are bigger fish to fry. And honestly, there is way more perverse and disturbing content in the Bible than in some fictional adult novel written by a middle-aged housewife. Just sayin’.

  35. Wendy says:

    It is not foolish to avoid something when you know it can hurt you. I don’t have to read the book to know that it wouldn’t be good for me. It’s no different than avoiding a bottle of poison. I don’t have to drink it to know it could hurt me. Remember, too, that the audience this is written to is primarily christian, and the bible explicitly states that we are to guard our minds.

  36. Amy says:

    I am a Christian woman who tries to be the best person I can be everyday. I try to be better than the person next to me. I know I have sinned and I know someday I will have to face God and answer to my sins. It upsets me that you are passing judgment when you have not read the books. I understand you have no desire to read them and that is your choice. I chose to read these books and I really enjoyed them. It is a fictional love story between two consenting adults. You stated that their relationship is filled with pain and suffering. How do you know anything about their relationship if you haven’t read the book. Life is full of happiness and joy as well as pain and suffering. This is what shapes us as people. Live your life as you seem fit and don’t judge others

  37. Anonymous says:

    I’m not as concerned with the premarital sex aspect of the novel. As for sensuality, we are all sexual beings. I have skimmed parts of the book and I read a NEWSWEEK article about the growing popularity of S&M type sexual activities. The article mentioned the FIFTY SHADES trilogy as well as other media that glamourize S&M. I feel this trend is dangerous. It normalizes abusive behaviours. True they are consentual and the book delineates the with an agreement signed by the “Submissive” (what the person recieving the abusive treatment is called [aka the masochist] — the inflictor of pain is the “Dominant” or the sadist). I see a far reaching affect on the way abuse in relationships is viewed. The question is how will the woman who gets the courage to leave an abusive relationship react to this book. Reading this book could reconvince her that her abusive mate really does love her even though ABUSE IS NOT LOVE. This would cause her to stay in that bad relationship and the longer she stays in the relationship the more the abuse can escalate to the point of her possibly ending up dead. Also, an experienced abuser is expert at hiding the abuse. Abusive relationships tend to be codependent with the giving and taking being unbalanced. Abusers (and abusees for that matter) tend to be insecure. This book promotes codependent, unhealthy relationships. (note: The book makes it clear that Ana, the female protagonist is a virgin when she begins her affair with Christian Grey. If this is her first sexual experience, then S&M will be all she knows and will think tht is a part of all sexual experiences.)FINAL VERDICT: This book promotes unhealthy relationships — avoid at all cost.

  38. Cindy says:

    I skimmed parts of the book and read a NEWSWEEK article about the growing popularity of S&M type activities that spent some time discussing the book as well as other media that depict these activities. I am not as concerned with the premaital sex or the sex scenes (which really are not that bad) being porn. What concerns me is that it normalizes abusive behaviours and promotes codependent, unhealthy relationships. (I DON’T CARE if the person consents to this behavour.) If violent behaviour that would be considered abusive in other contexts, it’s not that big of a leap to normalize this behaviour in other contexts. My concern is for the domestice violence victim who gets the courage to leave the relationship reads the book, she could get the impression that the abuser beats her because he loves her. ABUSE IS NOT LOVE. It is a fact that the longer a woman stays in an abusive realtionship the more likely that the abuse will escalate and that she will wind up dead. It is also a fact that an experienced abuser knows how to hide the abuse. Both abusers and abusees are insecure people which leads to codependence and Sockholm Syndrome where they actually sympathize with the abuser. They end up exusing behaviour there is no excuse for.

    The NEWSWEEK article also mentioned that more women are having sexual fantasies involoving rape. I think this is a DIRECT result of the growing popularity of S&M depictions in popular culture — especially pop culture targeting women. Again, it is not a huge leap to go from bodage scenarios and whippings being sexy to rape — a terrible, violent, controlling, violating sexual act being normalized as sexy. It opens a can of worms of normalizing not only marital rape, but rape in other contexts as well. (ASIDE: Men who view violent pornography are less likely to sympathize with a woman wh has been raped and more likely to think that she is lying about the experience. That’s food for thought, isn’t it)

    VERDICT: Christians should promote healthy relationships in all areas. This book does not and, therefore has no place in a Christian’s bookshelf.

    • Cindy says:

      Correction for sentence 5:

      If violent behaviour that would be considered abusive in other contexts is normalized in the bedroom, it’s not that big of a leap to normalize this behaviour in other contexts.

  39. Leslie says:

    Haven’t read this. Had no idea what it was about, but I know it is very popular. I am so knee deep in my to read pile, I haven’t added anything, so I cannot comment on this book with any intelligence. However, this post is to help women make the choice to not read it, correct? Clearly, you have read the book. If none of the other reasons demonstrate this, #6 emphatically does. I commend you on having read the book before making a judgement and passing along your opinion. I have often have found that Christian reviewers do not. I am left wondering though, especially with reason #7, why you have the choice to read this (even for review purposes)? Why is your judgement and opinion on the book the correct interpretation of biblical instruction? I can not agree or disagree with the points you made having no knowledge of the book, but I do have cause to wonder about a few interpretations of scripture you have used; which still does not mean that you may not be correct about this book. It has been my experience that more often than not scripture is not dug in to deep enough to ascertain the correct meaning. We often take the words that have been translate for us and apply them with our current understanding. One must have a vast knowledge of life at the time of its recording and the vernacular of the original text.

  40. kimmipeach says:

    Good grief!The way some are defending this as their right to choose is mind-boggling. I’ve never killed anyone so how can I say it’s wrong? Because I believe the Bible to be the inerrant Word of God, and He says very clearly that it’s wrong. He also tells us very plainly to avoid sexual sin and temptation. Who am I to tell the Creator God He’s wrong on what’s best for me?!

    • Miss Thaephania says:

      Amen, he cares for you so He will want the best for you, doesn’t mean we are spoilt, He knows the good of punishing you, He wants to make you a better person, He could never be abuseive

  41. christine poynter says:

    The smut is just part of a long poorly written (in my opinion) but very gripping story that I think appeals to women because essentially we want to still be wooed and cared for and so many of us have that forgiving spirit and hidden desire to “fix” the bad guy. The author of black and white choice speaking on behalf of God’s violations? Well, I don’t get that. We are all in God’s plans. Baptists and non-Baptists alike. And if she had chosen to read the story she would find more about the real world of people who suffer neglect, abusse and are damaged by narrowed mindedness as much as the physical and mental abuses of circumstances …. blah blah blah. I just don’t get this author’s audacity and judgment but typical Baptist (that’s my judgment). TO only love those of your kind isn’t exactly God’s word either missy.

  42. Jennifer says:

    It’s just a book people. If a book can ruin your relationship with God and yourself then there is a deeper problem.

  43. Thank you for this post. I have heard about the book, but have no interest in reading it. I can take the word of others on this subject, just like I can trust me if someone tells me something is poisonous. I don’t have to drink it to find out if it’s true. I will recommend your blog post to my friends on Facebook.

  44. Thanks for your wisdom on this book. A couple months ago I was at work & everyone was talking about it, which peaked my interest. BUT then a coworker started describing the book. Based on what little I know of the content & your recommendation here, I’m choosing not to read it as well. Thank you!!http://a-

  45. Anonymous says:

    so nice to see any comments that disagree with the article denied publishing. classy.

  46. arlojones says:

    Reading the bible and all its superstitions and mandates is far more harmful to the female psyche than a fictitious book of smut. The main reason not to read 50 Shades of Grey is it is poorly written.

  47. Anonymous says:

    How about it’s just a book?? BAHAHA.
    Don’t ruin someone elses entertainment because your views are biblically based.
    don’t act like you lost your virginity the day you married, thought about men sexually, or even watched porn. Because if you didn’t, you need to see a therapist.
    God will not smite you, for reading this book. he gave you free will… Use it… Freely. hahaha.
    but seriously don’t rain on curious peoples parade.

  48. Jen says:

    So helpful to read a Christian point of view about this book which everyone is talking about at present, thanks!

  49. Wow, this piece of writing is pleasant, my sister is analyzing these things,
    so I am going to inform her.

  50. Terri says:

    Nope, not interested in reading it after I skimmed through the pages over curiosity of the book. I didn’t know then what the book was about that everyone was talking about, but I quickly learned when I saw on every page I turned to had much graphic words in them. I love to read, and it seems that this is not literature. For a good page turner, I highly suggest Karen Kingsbury’s “Redemption” Series. It teaches what true love and God’s purpose for it is all about.

  51. Deb Preachuk says:

    Great post. Sad that we feel as if we’re in the minority. This book is simply a black and white issue. No room for grey at all. Remember the phrase “What would Jesus do”? Adult peer pressure is never a good enough reason to make a bad choice.

  52. beingfrank says:

    I’m visiting from another website that provided the link to this one. This is (I think the third) critical review of the Fifty Shades series I’ve read.

    Seeing the thread is still running, I guess people, are still reading. (or at least Ms. Kassian, you are!)

    I’ll throw in my two cents.

    It’s my understanding,(not from personal experience), that porn in all it’s mediums is very poorly composed and low in quality. But it maintains the ‘hook’ characteristic that effectively pulls people in to a bottomless pit.

    I’ve held to the notion that sex would not sell if the men would simply stop buying. And what rejoicing there would be if men embraced God’s design for who He intends them to be.

    But, the devil is out to kill, steal, and destroy, and he has specifically targeted women through the Fifty Shades series. The cover of the book warns well (however it’s worded),that the story will “consume and possess you” (the reader). Indeed, you will not be able to get the images out of your head!

    I do suspect Harry Potter and Twighlight paved the way for the Fifty Shades. Who will proclaim joyfully that thier relationships\marriage/sex life\walk with the Lord was improved as a result of taking these things in? What do you suppose is waiting down the line?

    Wonder if anyone has pointed the question yet that Fifty Shades has obviously struck a chord. What longing is being counterfietly filled in the hearts of the readers that would be more greatly satisfied by turning to Jesus?

    And yes, if the men would take up their cross and be the men of God that they should be, a good majority of the women would gladly follow. But that’s another hotly debated discussion! One of many that could branch off of this one.

    • beingfrank says:

      And, oh! Is it any coincicence that the main character in Fifty Shades bears the name “Christian”? How and why do you suppose that came about?

      • Anonymous says:

        Let’s leave Harry Potter out of it… no sex involved there. The protagonist characters in HP had redemptive qualities choosing to fight evil, learning to love, and that friendship is powerful. The themes in HP are nothing close to the book in question.

        • Anonymous says:

          exactly. Why lump Harry Potter in with this? And someone else mentioned the Hunger Games. These books have nothing to do with 50 Shades and are not at all comparable.

  53. Miss Thaephania says:

    To say the least I AM HORRIFIED!!!!
    no more needs saying

  54. Miss Thaephania says:

    The bible is the truth and the truth will set you free.Christianity [some denominations excluded] is not a religion, it is not “dead” it is alive and moving and powerful.It is not superstitious there are no cursed-for-7-years-for-walking- under-a-ladder.It is something beautiful, can there be nothing more beautiful than
    a people who believe in others?Who love others, who love their enemies?[not all christians are this, yet] Who love their heavenly father so much they are at this moment, being tortured, even killed, doesn’t that mean they know something?doesn’t that mean there is a love a love that holds firm and sings, their faces alit with joy, when they are burning at the stake?Is this just the belief that they will live for ever in heaven? [without the Christ]No I believe people would give up in the face of agony.What would you die for? It would have to mean a lot to you, and that you were certain of what you are doing and happy about it ’til the point of singing.This actually happened, early Christians in Rome sung when they were burning at the stakes [or being massacred by lions] this horrifed the Romans, and I end with a eye opening truth, there are more Christians being killed today, for believing than there were in Rome 2,000 years ago.
    A farmer was asked why he believed in a God he’d never seen and he said”I
    believe in Japanese, because, though I’ve never seen one, I know they fought against this country.I believe God exsists because the government is spending a lot of time fighting, trying to persuade people that He doesn’t, people do not fight something that is dead.

  55. Anonymous says:

    …yeah, like I would take advice on what not to read from someone who hasn’t even cracked the spine of this book. Your article is based on notions picked up from the rumor mill. While your fanatical Christian may not approve of its content, as you suggest, a book is just a book as much as smut is still smut. The great thing about God’s love is that it is unconditional even if one chooses to read a book (and a silly book that ultimately discourages BDSM at that). The only way this book could be truly offensive to anyone is if that person actually practices that particular sexual preference because it is described as being the product of being damaged. My wife and I enjoy a healthy relationship that does include elements of BDSM and yet we still heartily submit to God and each other. Our reading of Fifty Shades of Grey will in no way deter us from the right path or the kingdom of Heaven.