Comments on: Shuttle Bus Equality http://www.girlsgonewise.com/archives/451 Spiritual Smarts for Life and Love Tue, 07 Sep 2010 01:43:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Shannon M http://www.girlsgonewise.com/archives/451#comment-1570 Shannon M Sun, 13 Dec 2009 17:44:07 +0000 http://www.girlsgonewise.com/?p=451#comment-1570 It seems quite obvious that there is a lack of respect on both sides of the fence here - one of the Girls Gone Wise series talks about "man-slayers", women who put down and deride the men in their lives. If this is true, and I've noticed it among people I know, then it's not surprising that there are many men who will not give up seats on a bus - or the subway - and there are fewer still who will open doors for a woman. It's all because of how they were brought up, and I think a decline in a "traditional family" - one with a father, mother and children (and even sometimes grandparents) under one roof, with a parental partnership and unified viewpoint - is definitely to blame. How can you be a gentleman if there's not been a positive male influence in your own life? How will you be a lady if your mother didn't show you how to be one while you were growing up? I personally don't expect to be given a seat or have a door opened, because I am capable of opening my own doors and standing if necessary, or even if I don't feel like sitting; but it is always nice (and quite appreciated!) to see a man being a gentleman. It seems quite obvious that there is a lack of respect on both sides of the fence here – one of the Girls Gone Wise series talks about “man-slayers”, women who put down and deride the men in their lives. If this is true, and I’ve noticed it among people I know, then it’s not surprising that there are many men who will not give up seats on a bus – or the subway – and there are fewer still who will open doors for a woman. It’s all because of how they were brought up, and I think a decline in a “traditional family” – one with a father, mother and children (and even sometimes grandparents) under one roof, with a parental partnership and unified viewpoint – is definitely to blame. How can you be a gentleman if there’s not been a positive male influence in your own life? How will you be a lady if your mother didn’t show you how to be one while you were growing up?
I personally don’t expect to be given a seat or have a door opened, because I am capable of opening my own doors and standing if necessary, or even if I don’t feel like sitting; but it is always nice (and quite appreciated!) to see a man being a gentleman.

]]> By: Gina Green http://www.girlsgonewise.com/archives/451#comment-1431 Gina Green Fri, 30 Oct 2009 16:30:01 +0000 http://www.girlsgonewise.com/?p=451#comment-1431 I'll guess that some of the guys thought about giving up their seat, then thought again of the tongue lashing they might receive from the woman who demands her equality and derrides him for such an offensive act...so they did nothing. We asked for it, we got it--speaking as a product of the women's movement, circa 1970's. Gina I’ll guess that some of the guys thought about giving up their seat, then thought again of the tongue lashing they might receive from the woman who demands her equality and derrides him for such an offensive act…so they did nothing.

We asked for it, we got it–speaking as a product of the women’s movement, circa 1970′s.
Gina

]]> By: Rachel http://www.girlsgonewise.com/archives/451#comment-979 Rachel Fri, 08 May 2009 03:37:31 +0000 http://www.girlsgonewise.com/?p=451#comment-979 I know many women, Christian and not, who would have been extremely offended if the men had done any such thing. Perhaps there is a little fault on both sides of the fence. I know many women, Christian and not, who would have been extremely offended if the men had done any such thing. Perhaps there is a little fault on both sides of the fence.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.girlsgonewise.com/archives/451#comment-964 Jennifer Wed, 06 May 2009 21:28:31 +0000 http://www.girlsgonewise.com/?p=451#comment-964 I think men are confused because of the women's movement. They can't figure out when to open a door or let women help themselves.I believe it has created a generation of complacent men who don't care if a woman wants to be the leader, it just means less work for them. As good of leaders as women can be, very few are following. God had unity in mind when He created us ALL with our individual nature's. Even if a woman is a better leader, a man still needs to do his part which may mean we have to get behind and push, not nag and belittle. (Five year olds with beards right?) Build him up, don't knock him down. Encourage manliness, not equality (even if you can do it better).Woman are very powerful creatures, and that is exactly how they (we) were created. Their power however is being misused and abused. It's sad, no wonder we have a population decline. Only women can have the babies and most would rather "be the man". I think men are confused because of the women’s movement. They can’t figure out when to open a door or let women help themselves.I believe it has created a generation of complacent men who don’t care if a woman wants to be the leader, it just means less work for them. As good of leaders as women can be, very few are following. God had unity in mind when He created us ALL with our individual nature’s. Even if a woman is a better leader, a man still needs to do his part which may mean we have to get behind and push, not nag and belittle. (Five year olds with beards right?) Build him up, don’t knock him down. Encourage manliness, not equality (even if you can do it better).Woman are very powerful creatures, and that is exactly how they (we) were created. Their power however is being misused and abused. It’s sad, no wonder we have a population decline. Only women can have the babies and most would rather “be the man”.

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