Statistics give us insight into the life of today’s typical woman, who I’ll call “Average Anna.” Average Anna loses her virginity at age 16. In college, she has a friend-with-benefits. Anna also has at least 1 one-night-stand (which she deeply regrets). There’s a 16% chance that Anna will experiment with girl-on-girl sex. By the time she marries at age 27, Anna will have had 2 or 3 committed relationships and 4 or 5 sexual partners.
Given her sexual history, Average Anna has a 50/50 chance of getting an STD. The likelihood that she indulges in pornography and erotica on a semi-regular basis is about 60%. And there’s an 18% chance that she has a serious porn addiction.
Average Anna almost certainly has issues with her self-image. When she has kids, she starts having a tough time maintaining a satisfactory work-home balance. She’s overstressed. She experiences difficulty in her marriage. There’s a 25% chance that she’ll become clinically depressed. There’s a 19% chance that she’ll cheat on her husband and have an affair. The likelihood of her marriage failing is more than 30%. She’ll probably be the one to initiate the divorce.
And that scenario doesn’t even take into account the toll that negative experiences such as father absence (33%), abuse (15-35%), and abortion (28%) will have on Anna’s psyche.
I meet thousands of women like this.
Outwardly, they look all cute and put-together. But inwardly, they’re broken and hurting. They’ve embraced popular wisdom in their pursuit of happiness, but they’ve ended up shooting themselves in the foot. Their choices have backfired, and have only resulted in disappointment and pain.
Though today’s woman does her best, she just can’t seem to make life work.
If so, you’re not alone. All of us have felt this way. The truth is, none of us have the smarts to consistently make good choices. We all need help. And the sooner we realize it the better.
“The one who trusts in himself is a fool, but one who walks in wisdom will be safe.” Proverbs 28:26
So where can you get good counsel? Most of us simply follow the crowd. We embrace popular wisdom. But popular wisdom tends to give women terrible advice. And sadly, the advice of girlfriends is often just as bad. According to the Bible, there’s a far more reliable source of help available:
“For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.” (Proverbs 2:6)
“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; all who follow His instructions have good insight.” (Psalm 111:10)
“All the treasures of wisdom and knowledge are hidden in Christ Jesus.” (Colossians 2:3)
The Bible isn’t like a decades-old, out-of-date Ann Landers relationship advice column. It contains ancient wisdom that’s tested, timeless, and true. I’ve seen it make a night-and-day difference in women’s lives. If you want the know-how to make life work, turning to the Bible is the smartest choice you can make!
My passion is to see women like you gain spiritual smarts for life and love. I want to help you apply the timeless wisdom of the Bible in this modern-day. I want to give you the know-how, the tools, and the motivation you need to succeed at every facet of life, and to leave a lasting impact on your world. The wisest man who ever lived urged his friends to do their utmost to pursue wisdom.
Happy is the one who finds wisdom and who acquires understanding. Wisdom is supreme—so get wisdom. And whatever else you get, get understanding. (Proverbs 3:13, 4:7
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